Tuesday, June 21, 2011

A GREAT Weekend

Anniversary Weekend (#6!)

       This last weekend was our 6 year anniversary.  Since we're being gazelles (Dave Ramsey term..) and focusing on debt paying, we didn't get to go on the Bermuda or Jamaica trips I had planned. :)  HOWEVER, we did spend the whole weekend together, and it was WONDERFUL!

       We had originally planned to spend the whole weekend camping, but due to a rainy forecast Friday night, we decided to stay around home for the evening.  We went out to dinner at Cafe Shi and saw "X-Men, First Class".  LOVED supper and LOVED the movie. :)  My favorite tradition at anniversaries is that we write in our "note" book.  My friend Jen gave us this book when we got married, and it's where we keep all our notes to each other and write down memories, thoughts, things we learn about each other.  We wrote quite a bit in the book this anniversary, and it was so much fun to process where we've been and where we're going together! 

         On Saturday we slept in until 9, read until 10, and then got our stuff together and headed over to Saylorville Lake!  The last time we went camping was when we were in India and hiking, so we had been pretty minimal.  And while we were still minimal on this trip, we DEFINITELY stepped into a different world of camping!  We didn't get to the campground until around noon, so most of the spots had been booked.  We ended up getting a sweet corner lot right by the bike trail...but we were the only tenters in the whole section!  Not only that, we were the only 2-person tiny tent tenters, which we pitched right next to the massive campers with their showers and air conditioning.  Ha!

Chris sitting at our campsite. :)
Rode the new bike a lot this weekend, and loved every second!

Our mini tent. :)

Ah, ever heard of a bike rack?  Might need to be our next purchase!

Hung out at coffee shops Saturday night and Sunday morning...nice time to just be together!


       We absolutely loved this time away.  It was perfect for us, we loved being alone and together, and we got to explore!  Neither of us had been to Saylorville in a long time, and we definitely had never explored it.  We rode a good chunk of the bike trail and drove around (almost!) the whole lake to get to know the area and surrounding campsites.  It's such a great place!  It made me excited to find what other neat things there are in Iowa that I don't know about. :)

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Father's Day
       We got to celebrate with both of our dads on Sunday in Ankeny, and it was so great.  Both Chris and I are very blessed to have wonderful, supportive, loving fathers, and we loved being able to let them know how much they mean to us.  WE LOVE YOU GUYS!!!

At Chili's to celebrate with most of the Farley's.  We love you Tom!

Matt playing frisbee

Chris stretching out for the catch. :)

Mama and her daddy :)

Papa reading his cards!

We had some sleepy boys.  Good job Amy!

Our daddies!

The cute couple. :)

Dad and his kiddos

Just cute...

Papa and his granddaughters

In all, this was a seriously brilliant weekend. :)

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Happy Little Moments...

These have been my "happy little moments" over the last 2 weeks or so...

1. Eating a picnic lunch on the floor of a friend's new home.

2. Going boating with family.

3. Morning walks with preggo-friend Sam!

4. Playing sand volleyball and going out for wings afterwards.

5. Reading a Philippa Gregory novels for 3 hours straight.

6. Bootcamp @ 6AM every morning...YEAH BABY!

7. Learning how to grout tile

8. Seeing Marie (an India friend!) and getting to geek-out over music curriculum!

9. Feeling like we might actually be able to do this foster care thing.

10. Walking to the library with a friend and her three kids....and "pinky holding" with Lucy.

11. Panera dates with new friends.

12. Finding Chris and I's "notebook" where we've put all our notes over the years.  Fun to read what we put in there on our first anniversary. :)

13. Making lunch for my husband every day.

14. Introducing green smoothies to my parents, and seeing how much better they're feeling because of drinking them!

15. Getting my very own library card.

16. Bike riding to Chris' work and seeing his new office.

17. Skype date with Kate (India friend!)

18. Talking to my brother...who's just starting his official adult life.

19. Making some serious headway on my "read the bible in a year" plan.

20. Not having anything I have to do. :)

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Gazelle Intensity (and Book #9: The Total Money Makeover)

Book #9: "The Total Money Makeover"
by Dave Ramsey


So, my brother-in-law listened to this as an audio-book a couple of weeks ago and recommended it to me.  I personally struggle with Dave Ramsey's message a little bit, but no one can deny that he has been VERY successful in helping hundreds of thousands of people pay of debt and become more financially stable.  Since our next life stage is called "PAY OFF ALL DEBT!!!!", I figured reading the book could only help, so decided to give it a whirl.

I have two struggles in general with Dave's message.  1) His main message is "Live like no one else now, so that you can live like no one else later."  While I understand why these principals could be considered godly, I also wonder if that's only our "American-version" of Christianity.  Anyone that's stuck with me over the last year or so knows that I've read/processed/struggled through "Radical" by David Platt.  The BIGGEST thing I took from that book is the question: "Is materialism our blind spot (like slavery was in the past)?  In 100 years will Christians look back at Americans today and ask, "How could they have known what was going on in the world and still have kept so much for themselves?"  Is our Americanized version of Christianity actually Christ-like, or would we just really like it to be?  I guess I like the first part of Dave Ramsey's main statement, but wonder if the "why" that comes afterwards should be amended.  (don't claim to have an answer, these are just my thoughts right now!)

2) My natural and learned behavior is to live in the "now".  A while ago when we were trying to decide whether or not we should to go to India, someone told me the story of a couple that had saved and been financially responsible their whole lives.  They were planning and dreaming and waiting for retirement so they could travel and see the world, but a few years before retirement the wife got sick and they never got to live their dreams.  The moral of that story - if an opportunity presents itself, take it and don't look back.  I really like that perspective, and have tried to live like that ever since.  HOWEVER, Dave's principals are all about preparing for the future, and those two perspectives don't mesh well together!  Oh, struggle struggle.

SPOILER ALERT!!!

His Seven Baby Steps are:

1. $1,000 Emergency Fund
2. Pay off all debt using debt snowball
3. 3-6 months of expenses in savings
4. Invest 15% of household income into Roth IRAs and pre-tax retirement
5. College funding for children
6. Pay off home early
7. Build wealth and give!

I'm totally on board with #1-3. We're entering a year where that's exactly what we'll be doing, and I feel like this is SO wise.  Debt puts a noose around your neck and makes it very difficult to pick up and leave when the Lord calls.  This is also a clearly biblical principal, as the bible talks many times about being a slave to money, how we shouldn't owe anything to anyone, etc.
I could be persuaded to get behind the rest, but am just still processing things.  After all, we do feel like we are significantly behind some of our friends who didn't have school debt, so the gift of a clean slate seems like a pretty great gift to give a kid.  AND, if we buy a home (AFTER we sell the one we don't want anymore!), it will definitely be a goal to get it paid off.  The thing is...it feels like we'll be ready to retire by the time these things have all happened, and then what?  Was our whole life simply preparing for retirement?  Will I have really lived life?  And, haven't we just chosen to take control of our finances instead of giving them into God's hands?  How would this path force us to depend on God for our finances, and to be willing to pour ourselves out like a drink offering? If everything is secure, do we ever really learn how to trust?

HMMMM......

All that to say, I'm still processing and struggling to figure out the balance, the Truth, what God has called us to.  HOWEVER, we know and feel very confident that He IS calling us to pay off all our debt and gain financial freedom from this burden.  So, that's what we're going to do!

My favorite part of this book was his term "gazelle intensity".  He talked about how a gazelle can outrun a tiger (fastest animal in the world!), because of their ability to dodge in and out and avoid capture.  He encouraged his readers to have "gazelle intensity" when paying off debt and do whatever needs to be done to get it GONE!  So, we're moving in with my parents, taking extra side jobs (piano lessons for me, tech. gigs for Chris), and saying "no" a lot this year.  Hopefully by this time next year I'll be able to write a celebratory post!  But until then, this is our journey and I'll just keep processing. :)  


Thursday, June 02, 2011

Book #8: "Forever Family"

At Matt and Amy's wedding, Chris' uncle Dana gave us a book called "Forever Family", written by a woman in their church (or surrounding area?) about her and her husband's foster care story.  It's the raw truth, and doesn't necessarily have a happy ending...and I LOVED reading it.  We start our foster care classes on Monday, and I'm realizing how little I know about the system and emotions and process and everything.  I'll be looking for some more reading as we go through the class, and am really excited (and a bit scared?!) to learn about the fostering process.

*The book is so local that there isn't a picture available online...fun, huh?!

Book #7 and a funny result...

Book #7: "Green Smoothie Revolution"
by Victoria Boutenko


I had seen this book on my friend Steph's blog while we were still in India.  It wasn't practical for me to read the book there (since we didn't SEE greens until March!), but the book has always been in the back of my mind.  When Chris bought me a kindle for my birthday, I was looking for cheap books to download and came across this one.  And I LOVED it!

I've always had a hard time with nutrition.  It's so conceptual that I haven't really understood it...and hearing that you SHOULD eat 6 servings of fruits/vegetables a day is really different than internalizing WHY you should, and what benefits it can have in your daily life.  This book really seemed to hit home, especially as my family has been dealing with some health issues.  Chris and I both have had digestive issues since coming back from India, Chris is having some acid reflux stuff, my mom has been dizzy/having high blood pressure, and my dad is chronically sick with pneumonia or the flu or SOMETHING.  So, when I read this book I got excited!

I'm obviously still learning a lot, and have only started exploring the benefits of raw food, but for now, this is what we're "eating" every morning. :)


I've been making these off and on for about 3 weeks now, but since school is out (WAHOO!), I'm trying to really focus on learning and preparing and getting this figured out while I have time this summer.  SO - I decided to try some new greens when I went to the grocery store yesterday!  I've primary been using spinach, kale and romaine, since those feel fairly familiar.  BUT, yesterday I got red swiss chard, turnip greens, and mustard greens.  Hmmm...

Most of you out there probably know that mustard greens are spicy.  Yeah, I sure didn't!!!  So this morning I made a banana, blueberry, spinach and mustard green smoothie.  I tried it and thought, "hmm, it kind of burns my throat!"  Then Chris tried it a couple of times and commented that it tasted like spicy mustard.  OH...maybe that's because I used mustard greens!

I even went so far as to wonder if they were somehow harmful to us, so I looked it up...and discovered that mustard greens are one of the healthiest out there with HUGE health benefits.  So, I'm going to wrap up this post and go see if I can get past the burn. :)

Just a note: This is only the second smoothie that hasn't worked, and we've LOVED most of them!  I would just have if this story detered you from trying them...we're loving it!!

Monday, May 30, 2011

Amy's Wedding!

Amy gave me permission to post pictures, so here I go!  It was a truly beautiful weekend, and I'm SO glad that Amy and Matt are MARRIED!!!

One of our classic sister moments...me tweezing Amy's eyebrows. :)


Dad and Grandpa...it was great that grandpa could make it down!


The whole (almost...missed you CJJA!), HUGE Ouimette side of the family!


Sisters. :)


Mother/daughter talk time


Waiting for the bride!


Dun da DAH!  Here she is!


Stellar couple....seriously stellar dress!


Bridesmaids and ADORABLE flower girl!


Handsome men!


YOU DID IT!


The brother hug...


New official sister-in-law Rachel!


Brian and I were in charge of driving the newly married couple around while everyone got to the reception, so we naturally head over to DQ.  Gotta love it!


Let's get some ICE CREAM!


The people in DQ loved it!  And, so did we. :)


JUST beautiful!


Me and gramps, dancing our hearts out!


Two double siblings...


And two MORE double siblings!


Cousin Angela with our Cousin Erik's son Soren...hey Soren, I think you're missing something!


Chris and Olivia tearing up the dance floor!


Some serious jammin' goin' on!


Married six years earlier, and still lovin' life!  :)


The cute couple, Uncle Doug and Aunt Sue


And ANOTHER cute couple, Rach and Brian!


Here they come!


Looking happy...


And on their way!


Soren and daddy...ALL BOY HERE!


Pretty Olivia...


Just a funny final picture...no idea WHAT'S happening in this picture, but it's a good snapshot of our life...we just kind of crack each other up!  Love you babe. :)


CONGRATS Amy and Matt!  A beautiful day for a beautiful couple!